Bring the coconut milk and water to the boil then reduce the heat to medium-low
Add the sliced okra, garlic, onion, pimento pepper, butter, pink salt and black pepper and leave to simmer until tender, this should take approximately 5 minutes
Do a taste test of the liquid and adjust accordingly, if needed.
Switch the stove off (or you can remove the pot from the stove instead) and begin to add half of the cornmeal a little at a time while stirring rapidly (I use a spatula for this step). Tip - the quicker you stir the less likelihood of lumps forming. Any lumps that form will smooth out the more you stir so don't worry!
Switch the stove on low (or return the pot to the stove) and add the remaining cornmeal in segments while stirring (with a whisk) and folding until everything is incorporated into the pot.
If the mixture is too dense add a small amount of water, slowly to determine your desired texture. Ideally you want it to be a thick smooth consistency NOT runny.
Continue to cook for another 5 minutes while stirring (with a spatula) until the liquid is absorbed and the mixture is firm but soft and like a ball. Fine cornmeal cooks relatively quickly compared to the coarse kind.
Once cooked do a taste test and adjust accordingly.
Remove the pot from the heat, and scoop out the cou cou into a wet bowl to form a ball and allow to cool down before inverting onto a plate.